Am i ready to be a mother?

Assalamualaikum

Ermmm hi blog yang bersawang ni.......
Lama sgt tak update.ada member mintak tulis ni....Seriously memang it takes a lot of courage to share our personal stories...but then again, ada yang tanya, ada yang minta supaya adakan sikit perkongsian...it might not be beneficial to all but I hope it helps those who really need this...

I am not a writer nor a doctor...this post is purposely for sharing ONLY...I may be wrong, for some things it works for me...but not for others....This issue is a little bit sensitive especially those who are not ready to talk/ discuss about it.Lets just take it professionally ok..Maybe ada rasa inferior ataupun segan... I know, I've been there..saya tanya en suami " Betul ke apa yang I nak buat ni?" and he said, "kalau itu intention awak, then go for it..."

Masih tertanya-tanya topic yang saya nak share ni? I love to surprise people but at the same time its just so hard for me to keep secrets...so talkative I am...so here it is...its about GETTING PREGNANT..Maybe ada yang cakap, sure dia ni nak jual products...SORRY eh...not into MLM...So amazed with the people who actually succeed in MLM...And sape2 yang nak share cerita, feel free to drop your comments....

For the first year of my marriage, to be honest memang tak ready nak ada baby...because of environment kerja yang terdedah pada chemicals and dekat dgn production site, financially..banyak sgt benda yang saya fikir...Then after masuk government Alhamdulillah hati memang dah ready nak jadi mummy...hehehe...and jauh duduk dengan husband takde rezeki even dah nak masuk 2 years of marriage..It hurts when people keep on asking....bila nak ada anak?kenapa tolak rezeki?Konon-konon nak maintain muda and berdua...as if we are so selfish like that...walaupun mmg it was so fun living berdua like honeymoon je kan...

Ni gambar masa kerja kat kilang lama...muda remaja...sekarang adeeessss..susah nak cerita..hehe
Duduk berdua mmg best, husband layan macam princess, rumah tak bersepah, boleh tgk movie...we used to have our late night supper at danga bay until 2am in the morning just to have a chit chat about our future plannings, career, sambil dengar live band...mmg best...tapi kan,bila ada anak ni mmg Allah swt sahaja yang tahu nikmatnya...walaupun, rumah sepah tahap max, bnyk baju nak kena lipat and especially moms la, takleh duduk diam....tapi memang worth sangat-sangat..Its the greatest gift from Allah....
Saya nak dapat anak first pergi hospital ya tn2 dan pn2...yang nombor dua pun sama....sekarang tgh masuk 35weeks....I really am nervous already...pray for me yaaa..

So,balik pada topik getting pregnant tadi ni..after several discussion we both decided to have a medical check up at Hospital Pantai Batu Pahat...Sebelum pergi check up, mmg agak susah untuk both of us buka topic anak ni...
Here are some tips2 bila bincang nak check up untuk nak pregnant :
1. Make sure that the environment is overwhelming....cari tempat yang cozy, relax...
elak bincang di rumah..banyak distractions, tv, laptops, smartphones pun jgn
ehh....back in 2010 kami tak pakai smartphone sgt so, ok je...
2. Make sure that you're feeling good, and he's feeling good as well...
3. Never point out to anybody,even to yourself....ayat-ayat macam "Maybe saya kot yang
problem, bukan awak" atau ayat ni " Tulah, orang dah cakap kurangkan rokok, tak nak
dengar...That is HELL NO okay.JANGAN....or the discussion ends right there.
4. Start with conversation like " Hmmmm, kalau kita ada anak nanti, I harap anak kita
banyak ikut U...You baik, penyayang, and the list goessss on...Sebab lelaki susah
nak cakap apa yang dia nak or dia tak nak..And the moment kita isteri dapat reply
" Kalau anak perempuan, ikut awakla, awak cantik, rajin....bla bla bla...BINGO!!!
dia memang nak anak...
5. Then, kita proceed dgn step seterusnya..Things like...Why not kalau kita mintak
advise doctor,tentang diet yang sesuai, belajar sikit2 pasal this hormone thingy..
Please expect things like " Buat apa?tak payah laa" Maybe boleh kata, kalau tak
Tanya, kita tak tahu kan..kannn...
6. Throughout the conversation, state the rules of acceptance antara husband and wife..
Boleh guna ayat " Kita pergi check doctor bukan pasal nak tau siapa yang
bermasalah, kita pergi cek sebab nak minta consultations. if so happen, mmg ada
salah seorg yang ada masalah, makanya terimalah seadanya...Semua ni qada' dan qadar
Allah taala..Normally, benda ni nightmare utk para isteri, sebab takut suami cari
lain..and kadang-kadang nightmare untuk para suami, takut tak dikatakan seorang
lelaki. Ingatlah bahawa apabila kita bernikah, yang utama adalah menerima
kekurangan pasangan dan kelebihan adalah sebagai bonus. So, yang penting bincang
baik-baik.
Banyak couples yang memilih untuk makan products...Boleh kalau anda rasa anda seorang yang sabar, go on...ada rezeki inshaaAllah..tapi as a science teacher kan,den memang orang yang kurang sabar and kalau boleh nak Nampak bukti depan mata.. I mean kalau ada ultrasound, medical results analysis ke, imaging baru sy percaya....So, I would rather see a doctor, makan hormones, pergi ulang alik scan. Sebab most of us ingat asal pergi treatment je costly...Sebenarnya, kalau makan products, kadang2 habis thousands pun belum tentu sesuai dgn kita... So, sebenarnya lebih kurang je cost nya...

Nak anak ni kan sebenarnya, ikut masing-masing...Ramai yang cakap pada saya, kalau Allah belum bagi, maka itulah yang terbaik.. Betul, tak pernah saya nafikan perkara tu, tapi ingatlah bahawa :

“Sesungguhnya Allah tidak akan mengubah nasib suatu kaum hingga mereka mengubah diri mereka sendiri”(Q.S. Ar-Ra’d:11)

Jadi, tak salah kalau kita usaha...usaha dan usaha....Dan kalau dah usaha tak dapat juga maka :


لا يكلف الله نفسا إلا وسعها

Aku teringat akan firman Allah S.W.T dalam surah Al-baqarah ayat 286 yang bermaksud:

"Allah tidak memberati seseorang melainkan apa yang terdaya olehnya. Ia mendapat pahala kebaikan yang diusahakannya, dan ia juga menganggung dosa kejahatan yang diusahakannya. (mereka berdoa dengan berkata): " wahai Tuhan kami! janganlah Engkau mengirakan kami salah jika kami lupa atau kami bersalah. Wahai Tuhan kami! janganlah Engkau bebankan kepada kami bebanan yang berat sebagaimana yang telah Engkau bebankan kepada orang-yang yang bterdahulu daripada kami. Wahai Tuhan kami! janganlah Engkau pikulkan kepada kami apa yang kami tidak terdaya menikulnya. Dan maafkanlah kesalahan kami, serta ampunkanlah dosa kami, dan berilah rahmat kepada kami. Engkaulah penolong kami; oleh itu, tolonglah kami untuk mencapai kemenangan terhadap kaum-kaum kafir"

Hendaklah kita Redha dengan ketentuan Allah taala...

Saya selalu rasa saya yang susah nak dapat anak..Bila saya berborak dengan ramai kakak-kakak, kawan-kawan ada yang setelah 16 tahun berkahwin masih belum dapat anak....So, kepada yang senang nak dapat anak, bersyukurlah..Yang susah, berusahalah.....


Ada tak sesiapa yang ada experience nak kongsi camane pujuk en suami pergi check up?atau pujuk isteri pergi treatment?cer cite sikit...Next post will be on Our first medical Check up together, my ovary problem and sikit-sikit pasal cost treatment tu...Ingat ya, sekadar berkongsi kepada yang susah pregnant seperti saya...:)

So am I ready to be a mother? I am not born ready...tapi redah je.....doakan supaya
perjalanan anak nombor 2 ni lebih baik yaaa..aminnn

Our little family

Business trips are tiring...well, not anymore...Lets just set in mind that we are not there for business but VACATION!!!!yes and let the pictures do the talking...

SERI PACIFIC HOTEL, (NEAR TO PWTC, LRT, AND THEMALL WHICH IS NOWUNDER CONSTRUCTION) Attended erin's wedding and managed to cath up with those who came (SSpians 9701)

Most importantly the cheeky asilah had a great time bullying mummy.We love u so much syg

My inspiration of becoming a teacher

I used to work in a private company for 2 years and had the experience of getting almost 4 months end of year bonus....but why on earth did i switch my job to an education area? What a teacher does for a living? When it comes to an activity, we ought to do what the students do. If you want your students to be patriotic, you too have to be one

Students are to do the absailing and so do you

And your loved ones can always be with you

Its such an amazing feeling to love and to be loved by your students...We know no boundaries....We have no limits, We are set to educate, we produce great people, we work with our soul...I am a teacher by choice...and I'll never stopped...reminiscing my early days of teaching make me laugh...

Who said teachers are no fun?

My SPM students are in the middle of trial..May Allah help ease their journey. Ameen

Just like the old times

Just recently, me and hub decided to have a short vacation of every business trip that we had…..the itinerary had always been checking in, swimming, food hunting (this activity varies in accordance to the location of the hotel) sometimes we even had our food in bed which i never did in my whole life. Nevertheless, i find it a little bit de-stressing to do that when i am on a vacation…If you think that this is some kind of a honeymoon…you are totally wrong..We tried to leave asilah on a daytrip and at the end of the day, we missed her ramblings and she would give us the whats-wrong-with-you -two look..hence she managed to squeeze in into our luggage and as usual she conquered most of our times with "Mummy, nak pg toilet?" We were running like crazy finding a toilet, later she said.."takde pun mummy..." :p..toilet training it is This time, we checked in at Seri Pacific Hotel, once known as Pan Pacific.. This was the route that I took back and forth from SSP Jalan Kolam Ayer and LRT..We first decided to stay in Seri Pacific because we purposely wanted to have dinner of the famous Nasi Goreng Ayam Berlada at the top floor of The Mall. Unfortunately it is now under construction. We didn't want to drive so, we went to SOGO by LRT. It was the first experience for asilah riding on a train..she was screaming like" Bestnya mummy....bestnya train!!!" hahaha...anak sape la ni weyyy....

The three of us walked to the LRT station and had our McDonalds at SOGO, had a quality time together.....Next planning is to expose Asilah with other public transportation. Hopefully she will appreciate the ni'mat that Allah has given us all these while..Till then.....lovess

Our first live show..hahaha..

Ni ms andak kawin, no practise, takde plan....terjah je.please ignore the faces. we are no professionals here. and plkus rasanya siti je yang bila nyanyi cantik sentiasa kan?heeeee click here

Adat manusia yang menilai...

Assalamualaikum readers(perghh, tak tahan..macam ramai je),

Actually hari ni macam terpanggil nak tulis blog pasal gelagat manusia...Dalam menulis dan bercerita, sebenarnya ini kira self reminder juga..We are just human beings, kadangkala ingat kadangkala terlupaa, kadangkala ingat tapi buat jugaa...hmmmm...Kita tgk kajian kes di bawah

1) When i was in UM( masa ni kira dah final year dah), i had the experience working as a front of house in satu fast food ni.  Nak kerja, pakai apron kasut hitam, orang masuk nak makan  je selalu kena jerit "Welcome"  ala-ala kat "Hari-hari" tu tapi dekat "Hari-hari" kena cakap malay--> Selamat Datang!!!hihihihih.

Itulah, bila kita bekerja bahagian servis ni, mmg byk gelagat manusia  yg kita jumpa. Masa tu tak keja lagi, so mmg value duit rasa sgt tinggi. Eventhough keja kat situ and boleh dapat staff rate, tapi mmg syg dgn duit kalau nak spend sekali 30+ for a single meal. Bab ambil order mmg takde problem, but when it comes to food serving  especially bulan puasa, MasyaAllah ramainya yang sabar berpuasa hingga maghrib tapi tak sabar barang 15 min pun untuk food serving. Of course to ensure the taste and the food quality, the food will only be prepared after order. But then, what do you expect? takkan 5 minutes dah siap meal for the whole table?MasyaAllah...tapi ye lah policy nya customer is always right kan...so we did our job despite of all the complaints dan maki hamun(kadang2 ada laa) yang diterima....Untuk yg membaca, tak baik macam itu ok, sebab yg masak pun biasanya puasa juga(sambil tangan jari telunjuk gerak kiri dan kanan). Normally, those who worked during the peak hour will only touch our food area 9pm bila dah lengang sikit. Tak percaya, tanya la sesiapa yang berniaga kedai makan, mmg 9pm-9.30 pm barulah boleh dapat mkn..Moralnya, kalau tunggu meal 10-15 min tak apalah, tapi kalau 1jam tu mmg boleh tanya apa masalahnya..(takut order tercicir).hiiii

                                                      


                                            

 yuummy kan?hmm

2) Kes kedua melibatkan watak-watak orang-orang berkerjaya....Normally on weekends, whenever staff got problems and they were not able to come to work, i mmg ganti jaga kedai...Butik yg belum cecah setahun tu mmg kecil ja, so mmg ok je kalau jaga...its just that bila kerja jaga kedai, people are not seeing meas a teacher. They see me as a salesperson. Inilah adat manusia menilai salesperson adalah orang yg mesti tak berpelajaran, tak pandai, boleh cakap apa sahaja.Its ok if you don't buy anything, you can just walk out but do not say things that you don't even know about it pun.just nak tunjuk pandai ja....tak beli pun, takde sapa kata you tak da duit. tapi manners org kita. Kalau org dulu kata, org kaya mmg macam tu. Pada sy miskin kaya sama sahaja. Biarlah kita pandai bukan atas kertas atau akademik shj tapi pandai dengan dilengkapi adab sopan...Kadang2 ada yg sibuk nak complain kain lycra ni takbaik dan sebagainya sedangkan yg dipegang ialah kain cotton. Tapi being a person, biasanya org begini kita ikutkan je. Its not worth it to fight and biar dia tak hormat kita, tetapi kita masih hormat dia. Tapi biasanya kalau yg datangdah tau saya cikgu, barula senyum seindah suria..hehhehe.Indahnya menjadi seorang guru,tapi jangan dilupa pekerja sokongan juga adalah pekerjaan yang muliaaaaa.:) Barakallah

                                                  

                                               

*ni semata-mata gambar hiasan sahaja. Apapun , jemput dtg ke Butik Amal Amani di Tunas Mersing..hiiiiii

3) Kajian kes yang ketiga ialah ketika menjaga kaunter pembayaran..hohooohooyg ni geram sikit.wah wah mentang-mentang kita jaga kaunter, yg bayar main campak je duit...tak kish la yg jaga orrg tua ke sebaya ke mmg biasanya ada yg kerek semacam. Kenapalah khususnya orang kita menganggap org yang berniaga itu hina...memalukan...hatta kalau angkat sampah pun mulia nilai pekerjaannya....Hmmmm Biarlah kita hina di mata manusia, Jangan kita Hina di sisi Allah.

Adat manusia yang menilai, Yang kaya disanjung, yang miskin dihina....Sama sahaja semuanya di mata Allah....Sekadar berkongsiii..S.Dengarkan lagu ini :)